Before I continue, I would like to say that before wordsofconfession.wordpress.com became a review blog as you all know it as it is now, it was my own personal blog. And when I slowly moved towards transforming it into a review blog, I decided to still maintain a little own touch of mine to it, that I’d still blog occasionally (or rarely) about my religion or controversial issues. I know this is going to give me a lot of flak but I really want to make this clear.
If you decide to read on, I hope that you will maintain an open mind and be mature enough to analyse the situation. And if you wish to share your views on this with me, I hope that you will maintain the proper internet manners as you do so. However, if you are already judging me from what I’ve already said from deducing that I’m a Roman Catholic and you strongly disagree with what I’m going to say then please do navigate away from this page.
So recently, there’s been talk about the LGBT communities pushing for same-sex marriages. We all very well know that if that becomes allowed, a whole lot of other things will follow and be pushed for.
What other things you might say? Well, things like gay couples legally raising a child together, having children together and so on.
That can’t possibly be right, right? That is just unnatural. Except that it is happening right now, in other parts of the world.
You might say that I’m just like all other Catholics who will strongly oppose this and you might argue with me that two people who love each other should be together, what is the wrong in that? Well, yes, I do oppose the idea of gay marriages but who said anything about disagreeing about two people who love each other getting together?
I don’t oppose two people who love each other getting together, I don’t. What I oppose is the idea and implementation behind that act of “getting together”. People think that two persons who love each other should get together (marriage) and with marriage should come sex and then children. I don’t think that two people who love each other need to prove that they do so with sex. Just because you love somebody, it doesn’t mean that you have to prove it or seal it or whatever with the act of having sex. That is just a warped up thinking that many people have in today’s world.
Then, what is love? To me, loving somebody doesn’t mean sex. Loving somebody means to genuinely care for that person’s well-being and happiness. St Paul wrote, and I quote:
“4 Love is always patient and kind; love is never jealous; love is not boastful or conceited,
5 it is never rude and never seeks its own advantage, it does not take offence or store up grievances.
6 Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but finds its joy in the truth.
7 It is always ready to make allowances, to trust, to hope and to endure whatever comes.
9 For we know only imperfectly, and we prophesy imperfectly;
10 but once perfection comes, all imperfect things will be done away with.
11 When I was a child, I used to talk like a child, and see things as a child does, and think like a child; but now that I have become an adult, I have finished with all childish ways.
12 Now we see only reflections in a mirror, mere riddles, but then we shall be seeing face to face. Now I can know only imperfectly; but then I shall know just as fully as I am myself known.
13 As it is, these remain: faith, hope and love, the three of them; and the greatest of them is love.”
Love is always about giving without asking for anything in return. When you find joy in giving someone happiness without wishing for anything in return (possessing), that is real love.
So if you didn’t get my stand above, I’ll sum it up for you here:
The reason why many do not approve of gay marriages is because the people of today have this thinking of love=sex. Love does not have to include sex, though it would, in a marriage between a man and his wife for the purpose of procreation. But in the case of same sex couples, it is okay to love each other. It is okay to love whomever you choose, that is fine. But if the intention behind that is to have sex then that is wrong.
Here are some excerpts Archbishop William Goh said in his pastoral letter to Catholics with the same-sex orientation:
“The Church does not disapprove of a loving relationship between same-sex individuals that is chaste and faithful but a sexual relationship between same-sex individuals as it is not in accordance with the divine plan of God. Same-sex inclination in itself is not a sin but as love often seeks to express itself physically, the challenge to be chaste and faithful to the divine plan of God is ever present.”
“Many same-sex oriented individuals sincerely believe that they are entitled to engage in sexual practices with others of the same gender as they are born with such an inclination. Whether same-sex orientation is due to nature or nurture is something that science has not proven conclusively. If it were so, there would be no debate. To date, there has been no concrete discovery of a homosexual gene but only inferential studies from behavioural observation to postulate nature. In contrary, we find that upbringing, culture or education may play a part in nurturing persons with same-sex attraction. In addition, inner wounds inflicted on a person in-utero or in childhood through sexual abuse or otherwise, can also nurture this. In this respect, healing of such wounds may quell any tendencies as seen by several individuals who lost their attraction for the same sex after encountering inner healing of their childhood wounds. Though the verdict on nature or nurture is yet to be defined, it is clear according to scripture (Rom 1:24-28) that a sexual relationship between those of the same gender is not acceptable, as it contradicts the natural laws of God.”
“The Church does not condemn sinners but only points out the sin as expressed in the Word of God. Judgement is reserved for God alone, as only He knows the heart and struggles of the person. So though perfection may seem impossible, yet we must strive for it, growing in humility by accepting our imperfections and weaknesses and seeking forgiveness when we fail.”
Also, on top of all this, imagine if you were the child of gay parents. Not knowing who your “other parent” is or why you have such an unusual family is bound to throw you into some kind of identity crisis, won’t it? I, for sure, love my mother very much and I wouldn’t even want to imagine the thought of her being a guy with my father. I feel that having a mother, is a necessity that every child should have and even though there would be a “mother figure” in gay parents, I think that is just isn’t the same.
In conclusion, this is my opinion and my stand on the LGBT situation. I hope this has given you a better idea on the Catholic Church’s stand and why we do not approve of the cause that the LGBTs are pushing for. Do leave a comment below if you wish to further discuss this with me or express your disagreement with me and I’ll see you guys again soon. If you are interested to read on the Archbishop’s full pastoral letter, you may do so by clicking here.